Chayei Sarah Hopelessly Devoted To YOU!!!!!

Chayei Sarah – Hopelessly Devoted to YOU!

November 6/7, 2015  Cheshvan 24/25, 5776

Abraham and Sarah had a wonderful marriage, and their true loving relationship continued even after Sarah's passing.  She understood things that he did not, and he did things she was unable.  A true partnership!  They truly had such happiness, because they had understanding, balance, tolerance, and honest acceptance of the gifts the other had from within.  This is a blue print, not just for a healthy marriage, but for any and all relationships and or friendships!

In the beginning of this Parsha (Torah Portion), Abraham is purchasing the place for Sarah to be buried, and not only for his beloved Sarah, but a plot big enough for her, and eventually the entire family.  He wanted to be buried next to his wife; the same woman who shared his world together, so they too may share the 'next'. 

His love and respect for is 'chessed shel emes'

, A true and loving kindness.

His sincere concern for her eternity is as strong as it was when she was alive.

His purchasing the cave of the Machpelech, really declared that she was his partner, and he lived in the era of Sarah!  She made and had a positive, loving impact on him.

We should all learn and apply the lessons from Abraham and Sarah's life, and 'next' together; we live in such a fast moving and disposable world now, and we are very quick to jump in and out and judge, and .............well, just not put the valuable time and or effort into solid relationships/friendship at times.

My folks are a prime example; when my parents we’re in the beginning of their relationship of courting and marriage with one another, they showed and practiced true tolerance and understanding, had a sincere appreciation for the other's strengths, and knowing not every day is not perfect….and with the good, comes the not so good days, and sometimes, hard times with in the relationship. They would 'bend', like that of Sarah and Abraham, and 'worked' through the issues and built up, and not tear apart so rapidly like the more modern generations that are present today. The used Legos with locking mechanisms to build, and not slippery blocks!  It is too easy to dispose and not follow the BLUE PRINT.  My parents just celebrated 60 years of marriage this past October!!!!!

A little bit about them-  They both are one another's best friend, love and respect each other, and it's a loving relationship, even when the not so easy times happened.  It is their faith in one another, and in G-D!   They did not crumble, fall out of favor with another, or act like their marriage was a used napkin and tossed it aside when they were thrown a curveball, or my dad temporarily was out of work (for no fault of his), or my mom decided it was time for her to go back to work part time and give back, and it is their practice of tolerance and kindness in actions, as well as words for one another.  100% support!  I am proud to be their son.

Concrete blocks need to be built into a solid foundation, or like Lego's together for any solid and worthwhile marriage, relationship, or friendship.   Is it always easy?  NO, of course not, but a real solid relationship is worth having a solid plan, and understanding “What if’s, and a loving hand!  Just an FYI, they were literally kids when they wed; my mom a few months shy of 18 and my dad in his early 20's!   They just got it, and  really did the work TOGETHER, and have had such Naches!

                                                            A STORY:

There was a very young man who was dating a nice girl for a VERY short period of time, and went to his parents and exclaimed with conviction, "I love her, I love her, I love her.....and she loves ME!"  His parents paused and said, "build a solid foundation and get to know and understand one another, and make a plan of action together."    He resisted, and they got married the next day!  A few months’ pass, and he literally cried and again said with such conviction, "I must divorce her; she uses four words!"  His parents asked with amazement, "please share!?"

"Mama, and Dad, she told me to COOK, WORK, WASH, and HELP!"

Okay, maybe a little laugh, maybe not!   A marriage, a friendship, or any healthy relationship takes understanding and 'chessed shel emes' (A true and Loving Kindness).