Chayei Sarah - A True Blue Print For A Relationship

                   Chayei Sarah - A True Blue Print For A Relationship
                                      Cheshvan 21/22, 5775   November 14/15, 2014
                                               

Abraham and Sarah had a wonderful marriage, and their true loving relationship continued even after Sarah's passing.  She understood things that he did not, and he did things she was unable.  They truly had such happiness because they had understanding, balance,tolerance,and honest acceptance of the gifts the other had from with in.  This is a blue print,not just for a healthy marriage, but for any and all relationships and or friendships!

In the beginning of this Parsha (Torah Portion), Abraham is purchasing the place for Sarah to be buried, and not only for his beloved Sarah, but a plot big enough for her,and his entire family.  He wanted to be buried next to his wife; the same woman who shared his world together,so they too may share the 'next'.  

His love and respect for is 'chessed shel emes'
, A true and loving kindness.
His sincere concern for her eternity is as strong as it was when she was alive.

His purchasing the cave of the Machpelech, really declared that she was his partner, and he lived in the era of Sara!  She made and had a positive, loving impact on him.

We should learn and apply the lessons from Abraham and Sarah's life and 'next' together; we live in such a fast moving and disposable world now, and we are very quick to jump in and out and judge,and .............well, just not put the valuable time and or effort into a solid relationship at times.

When my parents and their's before them were in their relationships of courting and marriages with one another, true tolerance and understanding were practiced, appreciation for the other's strengths were admired and welcomed,and knowing not everyday is perfect,and with the good, comes the not so good days,and sometimes, hard times with in the relationship. They would 'bend', like that of Sarah and Abraham, and 'worked' through the issues and built up,and not tear apart so rapidly like the more modern generations that are present now.  It is too easy to dispose and not follow the BLUE PRINT.

 My folks have been married 59 years.  They both are one another's best friend,love and respect each other,and I know it's a loving relationship,even through the not so easy times. It is their faith in one another,and in G-D!   They did not crumble, fall out of favor with another, or act like their marriage was a used napkin and tossed it aside when they were thrown a curve ball, or my dad temporarily was out of work (for no fault of his), or my mom decided it was time for her to go back to work part time and give back,and it is their practice of tolerance and kindness in actions,as well as words for one another.

Concrete blocks need to be built into a solid foundation, or like Lego's together for any solid and worthwhile marriage, relationship, or friendship.

                                                            A STORY:
There was a very young man who was dating a nice girl for a VERY short period of time, and went to his parents and exclaimed with conviction, "I love her, I love her, I love her.....and she loves ME!"  His parents paused and said, "build a solid foundation and get to know and understand one another, and make a plan of action together."    He resisted,and they got married the next day!  A few months pass, and he literally cried and again said with such conviction, "I must divorce her; she uses four words!"  His parents asked with amazement, "please share!?"
"Mama, and Dad, she told me to COOK, WORK, WASH, and HELP!"


We ALL can learn from Abraham and Sarah,as well as my Mother and Father.

                                                         -Amen-