Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Parasha VaYigash Shabbat Saturday, December 22 , 2012 D’Var Torah Family Seperation Or Reconcilation?



Continuing from last week’s Parsha, Joseph’s Journey and life, we jump ahead to the following passage , Please allow me to recap:
(Gen. 45) 1Then Joseph could no longer control himself before all his attendants, and he cried out, "Make everyone leave my presence!" So there was no one with Joseph when he made himself known to his brothers. 2And he wept so loudly that the Egyptians heard him, and Pharaoh's household heard about it. 3Joseph said to his brothers, "I am Joseph! Is my father still living?" But his brothers were not able to answer him, because they were terrified at his presence.

4Then Joseph said to his brothers, "Come close to me." When they had done so, he said, "I am your brother Joseph, the one you sold into Egypt! 5And now, do not be distressed and do not be angry with yourselves for selling me here, because it was to save lives that God sent me ahead of you. 6For two years now there has been famine in the land, and for the next five years there will not be ploughing and reaping. 7But God sent me ahead of you to preserve for you a remnant on earth and to save your lives by a great deliverance. 8"So then, it was not you who sent me here, but God. He made me father to Pharaoh, lord of his entire household and ruler of all Egypt. 9Now hurry back to my father and say to him, 'This is what your son Joseph says: God has made me lord of all Egypt. Come down to me; don't delay. 10You shall live in the region of Goshen and be near me- you, your children and grandchildren, your flocks and herds, and all you have. 11I will provide for you there, because five years of famine are still to come. Otherwise you and your household and all who belong to you will become destitute.' 12You can see for yourselves, and so can my brother Benjamin, that it is really I who am speaking to you. 13Tell my father about all the honor accorded me in Egypt and about everything you have seen. And bring my father down here quickly." 14Then he threw his arms around his brother Benjamin and he really cried hard, and Benjamin embraced him, also weeping! 15And he kissed all his brothers and cried over them. Afterwards his brothers finally talked with and to him.
After this, Joseph's brothers prepared to return to their father's house. Joseph gave them carts, as Pharaoh had commanded, and he also gave them provisions for their journey.
25So they went up out of Egypt and came to their father Jacob in the land of Canaan. 26They told him, "Joseph is still alive! In fact, he is ruler of all Egypt." Jacob was stunned; he did not believe them. 27But when they told him everything Joseph had said to them, and when he saw the carts Joseph had sent to carry him back, the spirit of their father Jacob revived. 28 Jacob said, "I'm convinced! My son Joseph is still alive. I will go and see him before I die."
 Now Jacob and his family moved out of the land of Canaan and headed for Egypt. Jacob offered a sacrifice along the way, and there God spoke to him, saying, "I am God, the God of your father. Do not be afraid to go down to Egypt, for I will make you into a great nation there. I will go down to Egypt with you, and I will surely bring you back again. And Joseph's own hand will close your eyes." (Gen. 46:3,4)
After a long journey, Jacob and his family arrived in the land of Egypt. How happy Jacob (the Father) was to see his beloved son Joseph after so many years! Thus Jacob (aka Israel) and his family settled in Egypt, in the region of Goshen. There they increased greatly in numbers and became a very large family!!!..... Jacob lived in Egypt for seventeen years. In all, he lived to be 147 years old. That’s a hundred and svansick and something plus!...Thus, Jacob, the father of the tribes of Israel, died, and went to be with God. Joseph and his brothers and all the people of Egypt mourned for him for seventy days. Jacob's sons buried their father in the land of Canaan, in the tomb of Abraham, his grandfather. 

You ask, why did he just read and paraphrase a few paragraphs? What am I, as an individual, sitting here going to get or learn from it?
PLEASE allow me to share with each and every one of you;
We must really look and feel the meaning in our hearts and look with in ourselves, deep into our souls, at this part of the Torah portion, as it relates to ALL of us!


Let me share a few stories, “Barry Stories”……..
Just this past week, I received an e mail from a cousin whom I have never met face to face (very large family and he is a 4th cousin, 5 times removed..). I was Cced with a list of other relatives, some I know, and others, I haven’t any idea who they are or where they reside.   To summarize the e mail, My Cousin, notified of his older brother’s passing in his e mail.  Shared a few details of the upcoming service, and stated his brother is finally not suffering; a rather semi-normal e mail notification.  What took me off guard was he was fairly descriptive about his “strained” relationship and having really no contact for many years with him.  Then, about two years ago, they sort of reconciled, although the years of a strong bond and true brotherhood had been lost. I am not casting judgment, just sharing observations.  I find this rather sad, as so many lost times and memories that “COULD HAVE” happened, and never a way to recapture.  Although, my own brother and I certainly do not agree on many things, we ARE indeed close in our relationship and could not imagine “banishing” or that of being “banished” and severing relations for many, many years.    I ASK YOU, IS THIS A MODERN DAY EXAMPLE OF JOSEPH AND HIS BROTHERS?
My father has an older brother; my dad is 80, and his brother, my uncle, just turned 89! Thank G-d, I have some long Gevity in my genes!  My uncle is a lot of fun and very loving when I am in his presence(although been  many, many years since I’ve seen him or he me, or even a call), but when I was a child and most of my life, there had or has been , well…..Minimal contact, even for some simchah’s!  My dad and my uncle are NOW very, very close in their brotherhood, but it wasn’t always that way.  Did my Uncle choose his own isolation?  I have my own opinion, but at this point, it honestly doesn’t matter, as just knowing I have an Uncle who is happy, healthy (esp. at 89!) and sharp as a tack, makes my heart smile, as does my dad’s heart, as he has such a sweet and very loving relationship with HIS brother, even after a large void in time many years back!     I ASK YOU, IS THIS A MODERN DAY EXAMPLE OF JOSEPH AND HIS BROTHERS?
Nathan and Mia are my 10 year old children. Most of my friends had children already and we really wanted children of our own.  G-d’s true and pure gifts to human kind; our children make us better people.  Yes, 2,  10 year olds! Twins? No!  As some of you know, my children were adopted from a small, impoverished village in Russia, about an hour and a half flight away from the border of China. The trip entailed time, patience, money, and about 6 weeks of travel to Russia.  What a truly beautiful and amazing experience.  One reason Russia was chosen, both mom and dad have strong Russian Ancestry, and what a fitting way to pay tribute to our own.  People used to say, “What a blessing and what lucky kids!”….I would smile with a slight smirk, and politely state, “ No, no…What lucky and blessed parents we are, and family to have them as part of us, as children of the heart, our hearts!”  It made our family complete and honestly, full circle!  .    I ASK YOU, IS THIS A MODERN DAY EXAMPLE OF JOSEPH AND HIS BROTHERS?
Oprah and other talk show hosts with validity, dignity, love, and humanity were known for family reconciliations, reuniting child and parent, brother with brother, sister with sister, sister with brother, grandparents with their own children’s children…… and for ALL of us TV viewers to experience with tears of joy!    I ASK YOU, IS THIS A MODERN DAY EXAMPLE OF JOSEPH AND HIS BROTHERS?
I have openly shared factual memories, my story, and my own experiences with all of you.  Just as we may all think, ‘this doesn’t pertain to ME!’…This Parsha/Portion, I can skip and not read and/or learn from.. I ask of all of YOU to consider and please take a look, a careful sincere and insightful look into your soul and your hearts, and make the right and necessary ‘reconciliations’!
.    I ASK YOU, ARE YOU, OR DO YOU KNOW OF A MODERN DAY EXAMPLE OF JOSEPH AND HIS BROTHERS?

-AMEN-

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